Beyond What You See: Personality Disorders

Sometimes the behavior of others confuses us, since for us it is completely incomprehensible.

Surely you have often asked yourself questions about the personality of the people around you without really succeeding in answering them.

We must be aware of the fact that our responsibility is not a solid and perfectly cut rock.

Sometimes the screams can be so deep that they can break us down. The same goes with personality.

Some people present specific and sometimes disturbing characteristics which draw in them a habitual pattern of behavior: these are the Personality Disorders.

What are personality disorders?

A personality disorder is a pattern of habitual behavior in a person that becomes evident in late adolescence and early adulthood.

Generally, this pattern of behavior alters relationships with others.

A person with a personality disorder has specific characteristics that become completely central to their behavior.

So, for example, everyone may at one time or another want to be the center of attention, but some people are NOT able to do a single thing without wanting to ensure that all eyes are on them. , by all means.

Personality disorders most rejected by others

Certain negative character traits can therefore become a habitual pattern of behavior in a person, in various situations and steadily over time.

Read the rest of this article, and you will discover which are the different personality disorders that exist and which generate the most discomfort in those around people affected by one of these disorders.

Narcissistic personality disorder

People who suffer from this disorder exhibit a general pattern of greatness, and a need to be admired by others; this is what characterizes them.

They have oversized egos, and are obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, power, intelligence, beauty, or love.

Usually, narcissistic people are arrogant, lack empathy, and use their relationships with others as a means to achieve their ends. They see themselves as “special and unique” people and are pretentious as well as jealous.

Paranoid personality disorder

Generally, people who suffer from this disorder are suspicious and suspicious of those around them, so much so that they think the intentions of others are necessarily bad.

They still believe that people are conspiring against them or that some people accuse and insult them in an unfounded way. We can therefore recognize them by their tendency to approach our intentions towards them with suspicion and suspicion.

They are obsessed with loyalty, suspect others of being able to betray them at any time, and believe that the information those around them have about their life will be used against them.

Therefore, they are reluctant to have intimacy with someone or to offer their trust.

On the other hand, if they think that a person is betraying them, they hold their resentment for a long time, and also do not forget the insults that may have been addressed to them.

Often, this behavior becomes more virulent within the couple, since paranoid people always think that their partner is unfaithful.

Borderline personality disorder, or borderline personality

People with this disorder exhibit a general pattern of instability in their relationships with others and in their self-image.

In addition, their behavior is also characterized by significant impulsiveness, which begins in early adulthood and is expressed in various contexts.

Usually, they blame others for their unhappiness.

We speak of a “borderline” personality because these people are on the verge of extreme neurosis, which can, in certain situations, lead to a psychotic episode.

With depression, this disorder seems to affect more and more people, which is why we have chosen to give it more importance in this article.

People with this disorder have an unstable pattern in their relationships with others; either everything is perfect or nothing is fine, without it being possible for them to analyze the situation calmly.

What is most conflicting about borderline personality disorder is the regulation of emotions; therapy aimed at treating this disorder will focus on the patient’s ability to validate himself or to modulate his emotions, by accepting or regulating them.

Many theories, such as the Mentalization of Anthony Bateman and Peter Fonagy, for example, tell us that these people are incapable of understanding themselves, but also of understanding others, in subjective terms.

In other words, these people directly transform their anxiety into action, without going through a mental filter.

Their discomfort, not being able to be understood in a rational way, materializes by compulsive acts; hence the tendency to self-mutilate as well as the high probability of committing suicide, more present in people with this disorder than in those with another.

There are other famous therapies aimed at treating this disorder, such as the Dialectic Behavior Therapy by Marsha M. Linehan.

She herself suffered from this disorder and developed in her theory the idea that there is a biological predisposition, but it is the facts that trigger the manifestation of the disorder.

Some films explore this subject, such as A Stolen Life  or Wounded (Spanish film whose original title is La Herida ).

Personality disorder

This disorder is found in personality disorders of the fearful or anxious types.

People with this disorder exhibit a pattern of behavior resulting in a general and excessive need to be taken care of, which therefore leads to submissive behavior, dependency and fear of abandonment.

Dependent people are afraid to make decisions for themselves and need to be reassured and reaffirmed by others.

Often times, they are desperate to pair up, even if they don’t feel really involved emotionally, just to avoid the feeling of abandonment and loneliness.

When they feel abandoned, they try to draw attention to themselves by going beyond certain limits and seeking to blame others and make them feel guilty.

Dramatic personality disorder

People who suffer from this disorder exhibit a general pattern resulting in excessive emotionality as well as increased attention seeking.

They are seductive, dramatic and enthusiastic in their thirst to get there. These behaviors are linked to egocentrism and the inability to assume a certain discomfort in their social relations.

Often times, dramatic people want to be the center of attention at all costs. To do this, they are ready to opt for all strategies, whether it is by assuming airs of grandeur or by victimizing themselves excessively.

They seem to exhibit good social skills, but their excessive theatricality and drama generally erode their relationships with others.

They do not tolerate frustration, as well as any abandonment or gesture of indifference towards them that can be considered an intolerable offense, causing them deep discomfort.