This Storm You Faced Brought You Back To Life

Much of who we are is determined by what we have been through. We often underestimate learning the harshest experiences without taking the time to think about the great positive change they could have brought us, but focusing only on the negatives.

We regret how we were before nasty things happened to us, regardless of the fact that in life we ​​will inevitably go through those kinds of things that we will come out of beaten down or stronger.

In reality, it is the tumultuous times, the great disappointments and the unpleasant events that reveal our true nature and make us stronger and resilient.

Sometimes that passing storm brings you back to life. Paradoxically and unexpectedly, after recovering from a great pain, you are more peaceful than ever.

“Real pain, the pain that makes us suffer deeply, makes the thoughtless man more serious and constant. Even the poor in spirit become intelligent after great pain. ”

-Fyodor Dostoievski-

These storms that transform us

If life was linear and easy, it would be known. If in the world we were all equal and wanted the same things, human relationships would be empty and there would be no desire to struggle or to surpass ourselves.

Even if one imagined a just and equal society – a wonderful thing that we all desire – there would always be conflicts.

The instability is natural  even around us and in the nature of the human being. The fact of not knowing how to tolerate ambiguity, uncertainty and conflict is a fertile fertilizer for suffering from psychological disorders. The myth of the stability of our lives is just a myth.

If we are aware of this, we will be prepared and made aware that abrupt changes and painful events are possible.

This is where the beauty and variability of human beings lies; in their way of getting out of good or bad things that happen to them.

Kintsugi’s metaphor

Sometimes when we go through a painful situation or time, we think the best thing to do is to put our pieces back together in the best possible way, always believing that we need to hide our scars first.

We want at all costs to come out of the pain we feel unscathed, and we associate “turning the page and being strong” with “not showing any sign of weakness.”

Western culture has a lot to learn from Eastern philosophies on this subject: Pain should not be concealed, absence of pain should not be associated with maintaining self-esteem.

Being through a difficult situation and overcoming it is a sign of pride and beauty.

When the Japanese repair broken objects, they highlight the damaged area by covering the cracks with gold. They believe that things that are damaged or have a story become more beautiful.

The traditional Japanese art of repairing broken ceramics with a strong adhesive then sprinkled with gold powder is called Kintsugi. The ceramic is not only repaired but it is also stronger than the original.

Instead of trying to hide flaws and cracks, these are accentuated and celebrated, since they have become the strongest part of the room.

Kintsukuroi is the Japanese term for the art of repairing with a lacquer of gold or silver powder, meaning that the object is more beautiful broken.

The idea is that when something of value breaks, the grand strategy to follow is not to hide its fragility or imperfection, and to fix it with something that has the function of gold. : strength, service, virtue …

Great emotional storms bring something new

We cannot know what an emotional storm represents in our life until we are completely out of it.

There are even storms that appear once and then twice, and only completely disappear when we have managed to face them and get under a clear sky, accepting the fact that the big clouds will always come as far as the rays. from the sun.

Once again, nature gives us her true teaching: nothing is immutable and imperishable, however calm and beautiful something may seem. Changes are the only rule that always seems to take place.

So, at the next storm, it will be normal for you to be afraid… although you will try to stay upright.

If you fall and injure yourself, accept that pain not with a passive or masochistic attitude, but rather with a conscious and selective attitude.

It’s the little details that reveal a lot about you that can be of use to you in the future. Maybe all those little injuries showed you what and who hurt you.

Ultimately, some storms are inevitable in life. Once you’re in, let them get you wet and you might come out with clearer ideas, or straight away with new ideas that will bring you back to life.